hard to imagine back in 2010, newtown saw only one violent crime. well, your child didn't have to be, but watching on television can be traumatizing as well. how could we explain what is happening to our children. and from harvard medical school, joining valuable insight and offering ways of comfort and hope as many are struggling to find this senseless tragedy. good to have you. >> thank you. >> if your child says i'm scared. isn't the worst thing to say that you shouldn't be scared. shouldn't we acknowledge their feelings. >> absolutely. the first thing we should do is listen to the children react to their fear and grief, being scared and anxious and being depressed and wanting to be comforted and hugged, that's also very important and for the parents to kind of stand by and a lot of those children, and children around the country, because of what happened in connecticut, are going to be having nightmares tonight, sleep problems, maybe eating problems, maybe a lot of physical complaints, stomach aches, upsets. i think that parents have to be very